June 19, 2009

prosapia monstrum

We are at the 2nd Annual Microcephaly Convention, and it's late. I really should be going to bed. California is two hours earlier than Texas, and it's been a long day. But I needed to say this now, while I'm still in the middle of it.

Tonight, Julie, Schuyler and I sat at a table with two other families, both of whom I feel like have become, in a short evening's time, part of our family, too. But in a very real way, they already were.

Because each of those families have a child with polymicrogyria, just like Schuyler.

They are the first kids with PMG besides Schuyler whom we have ever met. And they weren't the only ones here, not even close.

It's barely even begun, and yet we've already met amazing people at this conference, including Jenniffer Lewis, the remarkable young woman who first established the Foundation for Children with Microcephaly (which is now opening up to families with other related neurological disorders, like polymicrogyria & lissencephaly) and then put together this gathering, now in its second year. She did so because when she received a diagnosis for her child and then went to find some kind of support, there was nothing. She felt alone, and because she refused to accept that feeling, now none of these families have to feel that way.

I give my presentation tomorrow and again on Saturday, and suddenly I'm afraid that I won't be able to keep myself together all the way through.

But I'm not that afraid, because I also don't think it'll matter much if I don't.

Schuyler was never alone, of course. But tonight, that's more true than ever.

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Will be interested to hear what Schuyler thinks.

Christy said...

Have an amazing time, Rob! Best of luck with the speech.

Annie B. said...

Great post, Rob. Not alot of words, but the emotions and implications are loud and clear. I have always been amazed and grateful at the instant sense of "connection" when we meet people who walk the same road that we do. Usually, we face different circumstances, but we understand each other's struggles. . .it must be a little surreal to finally meet some others who deal with the same diagnosis.
With all that is in your heart, I am sure your time at the podium will be great. . .because this time. . .you aren't making a presentation. . .this time you are talking to friends and kindred spirits.

Frank Brusca said...

It's all about community, Rob. You probably knew that already. Be sure to send everyone at the gathering a big hello from Ohio. We'll be there next year, for sure! And thanks for the conference update.

Suz said...

You are gonna knock em over with your presentation tomorrow as always. The strength you gain from hearing from other parents is how those parents will feel tomorrow when they hear from you. Best of all, their kids will benefit from it ( by helping to strengthen their parents resolve so that they are better equipped to give their kids what they need). When those butterflies visit your belly, just remember those kids & do it for them. Kudos!

Christopher said...

You will be great! I hope that you and your family continue to have a wonderful visit in California.

Anonymous said...

There is something magical about finding other people who really "get it". I call my on-line support group (for my daughter's diagnosis) my "tribe" because we all suddenly live in the same world with the same customs and language.

Knock-em dead with your presentation Rob! You will be fabulous.

R.

Anonymous said...

Schuyler gets more and more beautiful in every picture you post.

Good luck with your presentation!

Courtney said...

:( I wish we were there. It would be amazing to meet you guys and other families with PMG...

Karen said...

I'm so glad you were able to attend. I'm sure no one there will mind at all if your emotions get the better of you. They understand.

StaceyEsq said...

Your daughter is stunning. Stunning. If all else fails, just step aside and let everyone gaze at her beauty! Seriously, good luck, but I doubt you will need it.

Anonymous said...

I would love to know one thing -- what kind of camera do you use to take these wonderful photos of your beautiful child??

Anonymous said...

Okay, shedding a tear here. Family, indeed. Rob, we are so thankful that you, Julie and Schuyler are here and that we are able to spend time getting to know you in person. I met another little boy this evening who has a diagnosis of BPP. My count of kids I have met with that form of PMG is now up to 5! Incredible.

And, Suz....Rob did knock them over with his presentation today. Parents left that room inspired and lives have been forever changed as a result.

Krista

Lucky said...

Please keep us posted on the conference. It was too much to travel from Boston and so wish we could be there to meet all the families and specialists. I hope there is a way to purchase the conference on CD. Looking forward to reading more about it. Thanks!

mckait said...

I read your book just now.
I work with kids who have special needs. I wish with all of my heart that more of them had your passion.

Kyla said...

Sounds like a trip well worth it!

Good luck!

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

As one of the parents at the convention, I want to thank you SO much for attending, introducing us to Schuyler, and speaking. You were not the only emotional one this trip, it was definately a unanimous feeling.

Thank you again! I am so happy to have met you all. :)